You Have What It Takes: What Every Father Needs to Know
John Eldredge is the author of numerous books, including WILD AT HEART, which sold more than two million copies and was used as the guide for hundreds of men's Bible study groups. He is one of many Christians who has recognized the value of fathers in raising children, and is not afraid to identify the differences between the genders and explain how they generate different needs. Eldredge demonstrates how understanding these needs and differences is essential to raising emotionally and spiritually healthy children.
Each chapter (which includes "The Secret to Boys"; "What a Father Needs to Do"; "Healing Wounds"; and "It's Never Too Late") is only a few pages long yet is packed with the core of emotions that everyone has experienced as a result of their own relationship with their father. Whether it was wonderful and everlasting or non-existent and painful, there is no denying that the father/child relationship is perhaps the most life-shaping of all.
In an age when "Who's Your Daddy?" has become a national joke, the existence of absentee, ineffectual and abusive fathers is just beginning to reap its consequences. Boys whose needs were not met by their fathers are growing up and becoming negligent parents as well. Many believe it is these unmet needs and resulting wounded spirits that are primarily responsible for creating the angry, frustrated and rebellious youth we see today.
In his down-to-earth writing style, Eldredge uses many personal anecdotes, linking them to Scriptures that illustrate the source of his beliefs. He concludes that ultimately it is God the Father who provides the model for love and forgiveness so necessary in healthy relationships.
YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES is sure to inspire those who read it to take action in their own lives. Whether your child is four or 40, it's never too late to begin healing.
Reviewed by Maggie Harding on March 6, 2007