Reading Group Guide
1. What are the various reasons that Dottie believes she raises Mattie? Discuss these motivations. Does she fully understand her motivations? What are the implications if she does understand her motivations?
2. Why does Dottie farm her family's land? What conscious and unconscious vows did Dottie make to others and to herself? Which influenced her choices more? Why did Dottie continue to fulfill those vows even though many isolated her further? How is Stanley's vow different or similar to Dottie's vows?
3. The actions of parents influence many generations in This Heavy Silence. Even though Dottie's mother died a number of years ago, she has a significant role in the novel. Discuss the type of parenting received by Dottie, then Mattie. Discuss the pattern of fathers favoring one child. Consider how the "sins of the father" impacted each generation, including Mattie's son. Discuss the various parallels of parent/child relationships throughout the novel.
4. Dottie trusts few people. Consider who she trusts and why she can trust these individuals? Which relationships impact her more ¬ is it with those she trusts or mistrusts? What influences her trust/mistrust of God?
5. Consider how Dottie's gender influences her community's expectations of how she should raise Mattie. How are her deficiencies as a mother accentuated by her gender? Are the women in the community justified in encouraging Dottie to give Mattie to her former fiancée?
6. Discuss the title. Consider the role of silence in various relationships throughout the novel. Dottie says, "The heaviness of the silence that followed the prayers felt as immense as God. I couldn't say what I expected to hear. But the silence settled on me like an accusation, and in those moments I believed there was a God." Why does Dottie hear the silence as an accusation? Why does the silence cause her to believe that God might exist?
7. Three months after Mattie leaves, Dottie says that Mattie has become too much like her. Does Mattie share any similarities with Dottie? How do you think Mattie would respond to this? Why does Mattie give Dottie the amaryllis?
8. Discuss the role of work in Dottie's life. How does it both connect her to and isolate her from others? Consider the symbolic nature of her work. For example, when she births the lamb or digs the trench with Stanley.
9. How does the first person point of view influence your reading of the novel? How do you come to understand Dottie by the lack of information or emotions in the narration? In what instances do the dialogue and actions of other characters reveal Dottie's lack of understanding of herself or others?