Reading Group Guide
1. John Grogan's parents were devout Catholics. How did their faith impact John? How did his struggle with his parents' Catholicism shape his way of dealing with life --- and death, most notably when his father was dying?
2. What kind of household were you raised in? How did your parents' faith --- or lack of it --- influence your life?
3. Discuss John's relationship with his parents. Could you have been as accepting as his parents were during his adolescence? If you are a parent, talk about your relationship with your own children. If not, what kind of parent do you think you'd be?
4. What is the role of parents in children's lives? Do you think this role has changed from what it was in the 1960s and 1970s when John Grogan was a boy?
5. In your opinion, what were the most important lessons John learned from his parents?
6. Grogan had to separate from his parents to find his way back to them and back home. Do you think his is a common experience?
7. What role did meeting Jenny play in John's transformation? How did John and Jenny's relationship compare to that of John's parents?
8. Becoming a parent himself was a motivating element in his journey. Can someone truly understand their parents if they remain childless?
9. It is often said that we "become" our parents as we age. How does John resemble his parents? How have his experiences made him different?
10. At the end of the book, when John is visiting his mother, she tells him, "Once they leave home, that's it. They come back to visit, but it's never the same." John wants to protest but acknowledges that she is right. Do you agree? Why is it "never the same?"
11. Doris Kearns Goodwin praises The Longest Trip Home: "Every now and then a memoir is so well written that readers are able to find elements of their own life story in the chronicle of the writer's life." Do you agree? If so, what elements of your own life did you discover while reading?
12. A baby boomer born into a solidly middle class Midwestern household, John Grogan came from a very traditional American family. How might his story compare to others from different backgrounds? Can someone from another background --- say the child of a single mother growing up in a large city --- relate to his story? Why or why not?
13. Talk about John at the various stages of his life. How are you similar and different from your younger self?
14. Did The Longest Trip Home affect the way you see your own childhood and family?
15. John Grogan writes openly and guilelessly about some very painful and deeply personal moments in his life. He also speaks freely of the mischievous and sometimes devious adolescent that he was. If you were to write your own memoir, how honest could you be? Do you think you could face and expose your weaknesses and strengths the way he did?
16. Do you think writers like John Grogan see the world differently, or more clearly, than other people?
17. John meets a Catholic priest who tells him he "was a fan of what I did for a living, of using words to reach out to a larger community. As he put it in one e-mail, ‘Just remember: Jesus's favorite and most frequent way of teaching was telling stories. Is it any surprise that as things have come and gone with the passage of time, storytelling remains? It is part and parcel of what makes us human --- and puts us in touch with our humanity.' He called my writing my ‘ministry' and added, ‘In your own way John, you are doing God's work.'" What do you think about this?
18. In his memoir, John Grogan touches on the themes of morality and grace, spirit and faith, and the powerful love of family. How are these demonstrated? Give some examples of each.
19. Speaking of the themes above, how does memoir differ from fiction in conveying universal truths about the human condition? Do you think the message is stronger or more indelible when it is transmitted through a memoir rather than a novel?
20. If you've read John Grogan's previous book, Marley & Me, how does it compare with The Longest Trip Home? Are the tales similar? Do you see a connection between the two?