Never Go Back: 10 Things You'll Never Do Again
Dr. Henry Cloud is a psychologist, the author of over 20 books, and a popular radio and television personality. He opens this fantastic primer on never going back to damaging relationships, attitudes, actions and emotions with a humorous story involving an interview he took part in some time ago. He relates how a television executive approached him to explore working together. When they met, all the previous friendly enthusiasm had dissipated, and Cloud wondered what had happened. The executive explained, “When I typed in your name (on Google), it was as if a 19-foot-spinning Jesus was over your head.” That descriptive left Cloud confused and speechless.
While the exec continued, he questioned if Cloud was even a real doctor because of his religious beliefs. Cloud laughed and explained that, yes, he was indeed a real doctor who believed in science, but he also believed in Jesus and found that science and religion can march along quite nicely in real life, thank you very much.
"...a practical guidebook to recognizing the messes of life and how to avoid finding yourself mired in them over and over again."
NEVER GO BACK: 10 Things You’ll Never Do Again is a practical guidebook to recognizing the messes of life and how to avoid finding yourself mired in them over and over again. Cloud is not afraid to base his premises of succeeding well in life on the principles found in the Bible. However, he also includes loads of common sense, business-type tools that equip folks to make day-by-day changes in their behavior, beliefs and eventually their futures.
Divided into 10 chapters, Cloud first captures the attention of readers and then sustains it by offering lively, real-life anecdotes and stories of men and women who made poor choices (over and over again). He goes on to contrast those vignettes with individuals who made mistakes (but learned from them and moved forward to healthier, happier lives). Readers will find themselves reflecting upon these themes: Never again will I: return to what hasn’t worked; do anything that requires me to be someone I’m not; try to change another person; believe that you can please everyone; choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit; trust someone or something flawless; take your eyes off of the big picture; neglect to do due diligence; fail to ask why you are where you are; and forget that your inner life determines your outer success.
In part two, Cloud continues to bolster needed life changes with additional help that gives readers more food for thought on making sure they never return to what doesn’t work; learning what it means to wake up in life; understanding the truth about self-help; and engaging with powerful principles to make change happen.
From the first page to the final paragraph, Cloud has proven he has something significant to share with individuals young and old; struggling or successful; male or female; of faith or still searching. His personable style and format make it easy to open to the topic most relevant to readers’ current challenges to equip them, encourage them, and empower them to change their lives for the better. Mistakes are all a part of the process, and Cloud’s work here will convince readers of that truth.
Reviewed by Michele Howe on June 20, 2014