Written in the straightforward style that we have come to expect from the Focus on the Family team of writers, speakers and ministers, THE SMART GROOM’S ANSWER GUIDE is one of those relationship tools that will make readers ask, “Where was this book when I got married?” How many young men actually stop to consider what it really means to be a husband? How many think ahead to the relationship and how he will deal with the issues that are sure to arise?
For Christian couples it may be a little easier because they have been exposed to Biblical principles and guidelines for the marriage relationship. Yet that has not eliminated all of the problems in Christian marriages nor has it prevented divorces from happening. Pre-marital counseling is one of the keys to ensuring that couples at least anticipate and discuss some of the issues that cause disagreements and arguments during those first critical years of marriage. THE SMART GROOM’S ANSWER GUIDE will not take the place of counseling but will definitely give the smart groom some answers that he can use when questions come up between him and his bride.
For example, communication styles that may not have been a problem during courtship now draw attention to the fact that “she really talks a lot.” Or that cute little way she had about making friends with everyone now seems like she’s always flirting. The smart groom will not be blindsided by these issues that commonly need attention during the adjustment period. He also will be able to refer to chapters in the book that deal with topics such as: What does she want from our love life? Do we have to have a budget? How can we work out disagreements? How can faith keep us together?
Wouldn’t having practical answers to those and many other questions have been a great help to you in your first years of marriage? In addition, each of the helpful chapters ends with two “Taking it Personally” questions that the groom can meditate on or that the couple can use as a springboard for discussion. THE SMART GROOM’S ANSWER GUIDE would make a great wedding gift for that special young man in your life who is about to embark on one of life’s great adventures.
Reviewed by Maggie Harding on February 20, 2008